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Local Resources for Victims of Domestic Violence

Ongoing social isolation due to COVID-19 is just one of the many causes for high tensions within relationships and households.

Safe Haven Cheatham County is available to help by providing a safe environment, shelter, food, and clothing.

Additional services that Safe Haven can offer are: counseling, legal aid, group support, and children's services.

Help is available 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

Anyone who is in need of these services is encouraged to call (615) 681-5863.

Definition of Domestic Violence:

A form of control that one person exerts over another. It is never about anger – it is all about control – a process that escalates over time.

Likely components:

  • abuse can be mental, financial, sexual (rape), verbal, physical, emotional (if you love me you will……”

  • abuser isolates victim away from family, friends, church members, co-workers – keeping victim from reaching out for help

  • abuser usually withholds funds telling the victim they don’t deserve any money

  • abuser will use threats – “I’ll hurt your family if you leave, I will track you down wherever you go, I will find you and hurt you if you leave, I’ll take the children away from you if you leave, you can’t even take care of yourself, look at you – you’re pitiful, nobody will hire you!”

  • abuser usually has ‘buddies’ join in on the abuse and the victim becomes afraid of them knowing they would help find the victim

  • fear is the greatest motivator – an abuser will use it to their full advantage to control their victim – most dangerous moment is when victim decides to leave – now the abuser is losing power over the victim and this can lead to her death

Responses you/we can make:

  • listen – you may be first person who the victim trusts enough to tell -- don’t tell them what to do (big mistake, as they are being controlled already)

  • give options and offer to help them out of the situation (Safe Haven phone number 615-681-5863; facebook Safe Haven Cheatham County)

  • help them make arrangements, being aware of safety first for parent and children.

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